The Girlfriend Activation System: How to Approach a Woman

Girlfriend Activation System

Approaching girlfriend material women is not as difficult as it may seem, especially using the Girlfriend Activation System.

Firstly, know what a GFAS woman really wants. Here are 5 basic rules for approaching a girl you want to be your girlfriend:

  1. She’s so hot that you’ve only got one shot!
  2. The GFAS girl always knows what’s happening when you approach them. They generally know how to read your body language. If you are anxious, they’ll pick this up in your awkwardness.
  3. They want you to make an approach. Approaching a GFAS woman shows how confident and comfortable you are in being yourself.
  4. The woman is self-assured with high self-respect and expect to be respected. Anything other than this and you’re out the door quick smart.
  5. High quality women enjoy engaging, interesting and intelligent conversation.

The single most important thing to learn for approaching a woman with he Girlfriend Activation System is to get over your fear, make an approach and start a conversation. If you are one of those guys who gets an anxiety attack or simply dreads the thought of another rejection every time you are preparing to go out looking for a potential date: There’s no need to fear or be clueless, the art of approach is a skill that can be quickly and easily mastered, soon enough you’ll learn how to activate the girlfriend in any girl you wish.

Now, for the best conversation opener…


This is the opportunity that you’ve been waiting for. You may feel a sudden rush that overwhelms you. It’s as though you’re skydiving towards the earth…

The moment of validation is at hand. When you’re in this state it is easy to be blinded by all those expectations that you have of what you’re going to say, what you’re going to do, and what you want to have happen. Stop. Think. And breathe.

Here are 3 powerful tips that will help you approach a GFAS woman with ease and confidence:

1. Engage her with a smile. When you approach with a smile, you are showing how approachable you are. A smile puts the woman at ease, and makes her feel comfortable with you approaching her. Never approach her with a straight look on your face. This will put her at dis-ease. The key is to have her feeling comfortable and friendly around you. And I’m sure that you’d like it if she were to smile back at you when you approach her. Picture this:

Your friend Jack is walking down the footpath when he sees you coming towards him – Jack: (walking up to you smiling) “Hi …, haven’t seen you for a while. How’s it going?”
You: (backing away, avoiding eye contact) “Fine, fine.”

Jack: “What’s up… are you OK?”
You: (dropping your newspaper, scrambling for those loose pages, getting up and looking quickly past Jack as you shift from one foot to the other) “Yeah, sure, I’m fine.”
Jack: “You seem a little distracted.”

You: (stepping back, finally looking at Jack) “No, No, I’m really okay (heavy sigh) I’m just… great… (looking off into the distance). “Yeah, great…”

From this scenario you can see how Jack is feeling really uncomfortable with the approach that has been made. The key to the art of approach is choosing the right way to make an approach and staying focused on the girl you have approached. The Girlfriend Activation System is all about is all about patience, something really highlighted in this Girlfriend Activation System Review.

2. Get her to laugh. This is so much more effective than trying to come up with a hot pick up line. When you approach a woman, make it fun, flirt a little, and when she is relaxed enough in your company to laugh, she will be more open to you, giving you time to converse in good conversation and build the attraction between you both. David Tian of The Social Man really emphasises this within the program.

3. Approach the woman without fear. Now this is easy. If you are anxious, simply begin approaching women with the intent of practicing making an initial approach. This then takes the pressure off you to “get the date” and allows you to relax and engage and enjoy the conversation with her. And when you’re comfortable with this, you may be surprised to find out that you’ve successfully moved onto being confident enough to ask her out without too much effort and without anxiety.

Another thing you need to be aware of is how long or short should a conversation be? As long as it needs to be and as short as possible. What happens during the opening of a conversation is that the woman is scanning for relevant information. Remember: she’s been evaluating you ever since she saw you. And you’re being sized up as a potential dating prospect. How you converse with the her is the most crucial aspect in the art of approach. It’s here where you seal the deal or get given your walking ticket. And obviously GFAS is all about sealing the deal. So the better you get at making an approach, being able to relate to her and holding her in conversation, the more dating success you’ll have.

Now, as far as conversing goes, it must be compelling enough to influence her to open up to a possibility that she hasn’t considered yet – Dating YOU! You would obviously like to activate the girlfriend within her. It’s at this critical point where marketing and negotiating skills come into play. What this involves is having the ability to effectively and accurately identify with her specific desires.

Ok… you’re going to need a practical example here… And don’t worry The Girlfriend Activation System gives dozens… Let’s use a woman you may be familiar with. We all know at least one woman (like your mates mother) who just can’t resist buying shoes, handbags, or jewelry. Start asking questions of this woman, finding out everything there is to know about why she has an insatiable desire for say, ‘shoes’. What you are learning to do here is to identify with this particular woman and pin point her specific desire for shoes. Ask other women too. You may find out that there are some common similarities in their answers and/or some differences. This exercise is a valuable asset in getting inside a woman’s head and for connecting with her. Think not like a man. Think like a woman, you’ll be on your way in no time.

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Monogamy Damages Your Health

Human beings were never designed for long-term sexual monogamy. This is why the divorce rate in most American and European cities is well over 60%, and why the infidelity rate in those married couples who never divorce is often as high as 77%20. This is also why married men have lower testosterone levels than unmarried men of the same age. Just the act of a man’s wife having a baby drops his testosterone levels by as much as 30%21.

On the other hand, clinical studies have shown us that if a married man does nothing more than a 20 minute chat with a young, beautiful woman, his testosterone instantly shoots up 14%. Older men, including older married men, who have sex with a new young woman experience boosts in their testosterone levels, resulting in increased sexual desire for their wives, since more testosterone equals a higher overall sex drive. This is even true if the younger woman is dumber, uglier, and/or worse in bed than his wife!

Men in the Western world have been fighting monogamy, and losing, for thousands of years. It’s time to remove yourself from this battle and join the ranks of the Alpha 2.0s out there who can have sex whenever they choose, and without having to hide it or lie about it. This article on monogamy by GQ explains why you should’t follow that path.


A Hidden Benefit to Non-monogamy

The obvious benefit to being nonmonogamous is that you can have sex with other women besides your favorite one. No woman will have absolute control over your body and your sexual actions, maintaining Freedom of Action.

However, there is another benefit that is equally beneficial. It is that not being monogamous actually maintains or even increases the attraction the woman in your life has for you, rather than having her attraction decrease over time, which is a standard characteristic of monogamy. Studies on monogamy have been done that prove this.

When a man submits to a woman’s SP-based relationship rules (monogamy being one of many), saying in effect, “I will do what you want me to do,” even if she’s outwardly happy, her sexual attraction for him decreases, even if just a little. When a man refuses to submit sexually, even if she appears upset, her attraction increases, or at least stays the same.

When a woman clearly sees that she can’t “tame” you, that she can’t completely control you, her attraction for you stays strong, even if she is bothered by your actions. This is where the whole “women are attracted to assholes” concept comes from. Of course the goal of the Alpha 2.0 is to handle these relationships in a harmonious way with a woman so as to avoid drama and unhappiness. Being an “asshole” is the realm of some Alpha 1.0s.

It’s a difficult concept to describe if you’ve never been in a nonmonogamous relationship before, but the first time you try it you’ll see what I mean (provided you do it correctly).


Open Relationships Must Go Both Ways if Something Long-Term is Desired

The third of the Four False Sex Beliefs likely rolling around in your head is that while it might be okay for you to go have sex with other women, the woman in your life must not be allowed to have sex with other men.

If you’re like most men, the thought of the woman in your life getting even a little sexual with another man will send your inner-Grog OBW into a fierce rage of fiery anger. It will also send your SP into all kinds of righteous indignation about “respect” and “honor” and other false SP concoctions.

The sad reality of this, and I’m no more happy about this than you are, is that long-term nonmonogamous relationships cannot last if only you are allowed to sleep with other people. If you’re going to have sex with other women, she must at least have the option of being able to sleep with other men, under whatever rules you both agree to. It simply cannot work any other way, unless all you want in life is a bunch of very short relationships.

Why? Because women in the modern era, even the more submissive ones, are simply not going to stick around long-term not having sex with other guys while you’re out playing with other women all the time. It’s just not going to happen. Remember I said long-term. It is true that in the short-term you could bully a submissive or lovestruck woman into agreeing to a relationship like this. Some Alpha 1.0s do pull this off sometimes. That might work for a while, but it never lasts. Eventually the woman either cheats on you behind your back, or leaves.

If you want a long-term nonmonogamous relationship, you’re going to have to be fair about this. The good news is that often the woman in your life won’t be having sex with other men even though you’ll be having sex with other women. We’ll discuss that in a minute.

Your challenge, then, is your own jealousy. You’re going to have to learn to control it.

New Desire System Review

The Desire System Review

Hey guys,


there’s a new Desire System review over at that I want to tell you a little about. I’ve been invested in The Desire System for over a year now and have seen tremendous impacts to my social circle game and general attractiveness. Most of my friends would tell you I’m a different person now, but really I’ve just put some simple techniques borrowed from the program into place.

We get quite a few emails asking about what program is best for a beginner, many have asked me to make a list of my top 10 products for beginners, but I thought instead i would just do this program: My top 1 program for beginners.

You see, until I came across The Desire System, I was always picking up PUA books that lead me into weird and creepy avenues, treating girls with no respect, and socially becoming more and more awkward. The difference with David Tian and The Social Man is that they’re normal guys, with normal goals, dreams and friends. David teaches you as if he were a friend who is really good with women and is doing you a favour, and that kind of teaching is invaluable.


Anyway, Im not going to get into too much detail, if you want to read an insanely detailed review, you can read review of the desire system here.

The Ultimate Guide to Daygame

…or How You Can Get a Neverending Stream of Sweet, Delicious Poosay Into Your Life… Without Ever Setting Foot Into a Bar Or a Club!

Hi guys I just felt like typing this up for some reason. I got so much out of this place and I would like to give something back. I dont really consider myself a pro at daygame but I would say I’m a solid intermediate I can pull bangs consistently off the streets and if I put in the work I can get hot girls (8 and above) too. I have done daygame for years and over time I have developed a simple A-Z system that works for me, so maybe it can work for you too. Theres not too many quality resources on daygame and a lot of white spots you have to figure out yourself so I hope this can help as a little shortcut. If youre a grizzled veteran this is probably nothing mindblowing for you but for the raw rookie it might be helpful.

Why Daygame?

I was attracted to daygame right from the start since I’m an introvert and I dont really enjoy clubs and bars. I have pulled from those venues too but I’m not a big drinker yet I always drink too much when I go out for sarging and it fucks up my next day. Its not cool when youre nursing your hangover all day and cant workout and cant get any work done. Im too old for this shit, really. Also my nightgame is terrible.

So daygame is a lot nicer IF you live in a good place (see location, location, location…) and the weather is good. Just grab some ice cream, stroll through the city and mack on every hot girl you see. Its free, you get a workout and you dont have to sit around in dingy bars. Sounds alot better than nightgame, doesnt it? The downside is in winter youre pretty much screwed, not much fun trolling the streets when its freezing outside.

I also found I can get a bigger variety of girls from daygame. Im really into exotic types, like middle-eastern, asian, black and so on and you dont meet them often in the typical student type places I frequent. Also Ive pulled girls that hardly go out to clubs so it opens up a lot of variety for you.

The Basics

First of all I believe you should have your basics in check. The skill component in this whole game thing is not so important I believe, its pretty much all about looks, confidence and playing the numbers. The better your looks, the better your numbers. So you should at least look presentable, work out regularly for good posture… the confidence part is harder to get down but will come with experience and positive reference points after a while.

In a club you have dim lights and girls are drunk so you can get away with more but in broad daylight they will judge you with one quick look and decide if they even want to talk to you or not. So again, work out (get those squats and deadlifts in, plus some curls for the girls), have some clean clothes and look presentable. This is some basic shit but I used to go out dressed like a bum and then wonder why girls would run away so I’m mentioning it here. You dont need anything fancy, I usually wear sneakers, jeans and some v-neck shirts.

Getting over AA

AA in daygame is real and it can be really tough. When I started out doing my first direct approaches I nearly puked from fear and thats no joke! I went skydiving at some point and the fear  I experienced from jumping out of a tiny airplane in 4000 meters above ground was comparable in intensity! Its nuts. There are lot of theories around why you get AA but it doesnt really matter, the question is how do you get over it?

The answer is simple you just do it! Im a huge fan of Captain Jack and he puts it this way “there is no thing physically blocking you from going over to the girl and saying whatever you want to say” so the only thing holding you back is you psyching yourself out. So you just gotta make a decision and then do it. It gets easier with time as you realize that nothing really bad happens. Its either one of three outcomes: 1) The girl likes you and is receptive to the approach 2) The girl is neutral (can go both ways, Ive banged girls who seemed really neutral and not excited at all) 3) She rejects you. So once you realize its always the same and have done a couple of hundred approaches its really no big deal. I also meditate before I go out which helps a bit to get you in a relaxed state of mind. But at the end of the day you just gotta do it!

Im at a point right now where if I walk out of the gym drenched in sweat and dressed like a bum… and I see a hot piece of ass… then I WILL approach. I dont approach every hot girl I see but I have conditioned myself to approach in certain situations and I almost always approach a girl in that situation if I really like her. There is an article at The Guardian with the science behind this. Once you have done it many times you just know whats gonna happen and what youre gonna say… competence breeds confidence.

The Approach 

With the approach I like to keep it real simple and go direct. I dont like indirect as it can waste my time. I have spent 20 minutes talking to girls about some crap I dont care about like art exhibitions and then when I drop the SOI they blurt out they have a boyfriend and bail. You can avoid this with direct. However a direct approach has 2 big disadvantages:

1) you cant do it when there are too many people around (Ive had bystanders literally crash my sets)
2) you cant do it when youre in a bus or some similar situation. You can make the girl reeeeally uncomfortable and its totally miscalibrated (I went as far as dropping the infamous apocalypse owner on the cashier girl in my neighborhood video store… renting videos was a bit awkward after that!)

So in those situations youre better off doing indirect. However I used to play around with indirect for a while and I dont really like it so I will usually just pass over those girls. Unless I see a really hot chick then I might go for something situational/indirect to get talking to her. But my bread and butter is really the classic direct on a girl walking in the streets.

Of course ideally you would have a different indirect stack so you can approach in any situation… but frankly I dont care I dont wanna be some blackbelt-daygame guru I just wanna pull enough girls so I can have a good sexlife. And a solid direct stack is enough for that I believe.

Finding your Niche / Choosing Targets

This is a two-part section. First about finding your niche… it took me years to find a niche. I always heard people talk about this concept but I could never find any commonalities in the girls that really like me, they were all over the place. But now I have found a good niche… BLACK GIRLS! Its genius because around here they are a minority and the white guys dont even look at them. Yet I believe they loooove the white boys. So when a handsome fella like me comes around, drops a solid daygame approach (which is a rarity in itself!) the whole effect multiplies. So Ive gotten real good results with black girls and I like them too… big booties and those dick-sucking-lips whats not to like? So its a win-win situation.

So you might wanna play around a little bit until you find your niche. I used to approach pretty much everything but nowadays Im very selective because I dont like getting rejected all the time (feelsbadman). So I go for black girls, asians, latina types, arab girls and eastern euriopeans. I live in Germany and avoid German girls like the plague since they tend to be stuck up cunts lool. So anyway, you will find out yourself over time what works for you.

For choosing targets, I go only for solo-girls who walk alone and who are not in a crowd of people. It works for me, keeps my AA down and I think its also more relaxed for the girl you have to think about her too. If you drop a direct and shes surrounded by people that can make her really uncomfortable!

Location, Location, Location…

This is BIG! If you live in a small-ass town then you cant properly do my kind of daygame. I live in a city with 600k people and thats reaaaaally pushing it size-wise. I have become very selective about approaching because you can burn out such a small place easily. Im not shitting you but theres a girl around here and I have approached her FOUR TIMES already over the years. Just a couple of weeks ago I managed to approach the same girl twice in ONE DAY! Ok I have to admit Im kind of an idiot and have a hard time remembering faces… but still these small towns make it hard, you always run into the same people.

So ideally you would live in a big city with many many hot girls and lots of foot traffic. I used to live in Prague, the capitol of the czech republic for a while and that was daygame heaven! 1,2 million inhabitants, tons of tourists and hordes of gorgeous girls from all over eastern europe! It was great I could literally stumble out of my apartment and fall over hot girls left and right. I credit this place for taking my game to the next level simply because there were so many opportunities and I could build a lot of confidence with really hot girls.

Where am I going with this? Well move to a big city duh! Us players work in the shadows and we need the anonymity of a big city. Also you might wanna cycle through your locations. If you hang out at the same mall every day people will start recognizing you. You dont wanna be “that guy” who runs around and hits on every hot chick… well you wanna be that guy but you dont wanna be RECOGNIZED as that guy!

Playing the numbers…

This is another biggie. Lots of people fuck around and simply dont approach enough. And then they bitch and moan that they cant get laid. Now what if I tell you I literally found the holy grail in game… that takes care of ALL your problems… and provides you with a never ending flow of sweet, delicious poosay?

Well that holy grail is simple… just approach a LOT. And I mean a lot. All kinds of players have talked about this. Mystery recommended approaching 50 girls a week. Paul Janka talks about his “industrial” style of game (he approaches a metric fuckton!). CJ recommends multiplying whatever you do times 3 or 4. So if you hit on 10 girls a week… do 30-40.

This is HUGE! It has so many benefits. Heres what this will do for you:
– You get tons of new leads in your phone. You really start to develop an abundance mindset
– Your vibe and behaviour will shift. You stop putting girls on a pedestal since you interact with so many of them
– You numb yourself out to AA and it becomes a non-issue
– Your subconscious will get bombarded with so much input… it will start seeing patterns and making connections
– You start getting picky and quickly screening chicks. Are they hot enough? How quick can you bang them?
– You will get poosay!

So this kinda ties in with Location, location, location… You have to live in a bigger city to do this or you will burn the place out in no time! But if you live in a big city… well then go out and go nuts!

Seriously guys I cant stress this enough, the answer to pussy-abundance is NOT some flashy routine or some subliminal hypnosis tapes… its just approaching many many girls.

Day 2 or Getting the Bang

Ok so now you got tons of numbers in your phone and its time to meet these girls and close the deal. This is the part where all the daygame material I studied falls apart, nobody even mentions dates, so wtf should you do?

Well dont worry I got your back pal, Ill share my proven day2 recipe with you. Again, no fireworks or ninja-tricks here… just KISS Keep it simple stupid.

So first of all you need good logistics. Like our bro Napoleon said “Amateurs study strategy, professionals study logistics”. The guy conquered almost all of Europe so he knows what hes talking about (we have it easy, were just trying to conquer some pussy)! Good logistics are KEY for getting the bang as quick as possible. And I just assume here you want to bang on the first date and not wait for multiple dates like a chump, do you ??

Take the girl to a spot close to your place. Like a bar or in the daytime to a park. Dont be an idiot (like me!) and meet her at the other end of town in her neighborhood. If you have no clue where to take her and she lives with 10 cockblocking roomates… well you wont get the bang! Also if she flakes its no big deal. Youre just sitting at home and can go on with your day, you just havent wasted a 30 minute drive to get stood up by some flaky ho.

So anyway. You take her to a spot close to your place. You do some sexual framing (check out CJ sexual framing course!). Im not a pro at this but its important to sexualize the interaction. Make it clear youre not a chump who wants to hold her hands and be her boyfriend. Youre here to lay some pipe! (You can still become her boyfriend later on if you want). If possible, get some alcohol into here. Just talk about all kinds of bullshit and pretend you care about what she has to say. At some point.. go for the make out. Then bounce to your place. Proceed with sex.

Ok I realize this is not really a rigid step-by-step plan but its pretty much impossible to hold your hand for 1-2 hours during the date. So just really keep it simple… good logistics, some sexual framing, let her yak (pretend to listen), makeout, bounce to your place, sex. If she shows up for a date then she should be DTF! I had big problems with girls coming to dates and then they didnt want to fuck they just wanted to waste my time. But this doesnt happen anymore and I believe its because I carry myself different and make it clear Im a shameless pervert who wants the bang. So this is just another thing that will come with experience.

So there you got, simple steps to get you the bang. You can just rinse and repeat and get more girls. Im banging two right now and Im about to crack the third soon and Im not even approaching much… I have done less than 50 approaches this year + some online game on the side. Like I said I live in a small city and Im kinda paranoid about burning the place out (plus Im probably the laziest mofo on the planet!) but you can easily scale it up and build a bigger harem too.

So yeah thats it… if you like it (or hate it!)… drop me a comment, call me names or whatever.

Yours truly,

P.S. Big shoutout to the amazing people running this site and all the great minds Ive learned so much from… you guys probably know who you are!

How to Get Rid of Approach Anxiety

This is an interview with someone I worked with. Another one of my clients had been in the game 10 years, had extreme AA. 2 weeks later it is gone, last weekend he was talking to two super models and they were loving him. He wasn’t doing anything, just being.

Some pretty ridiculous shit. Getting rid of social anxiety, being constantly hit on by women, invited to VIP events, 3 raises since we started working, powerful manifesting, etc.

The issues guys have with women (confidence, not knowing what to say, getting in their head, etc) are symptoms of baggage they are carrying around from their past. What we do is go back into your past, drop the baggage and when we do the symptoms disappear.

Message me if you’re interested in working together. If you have any questions reply on here so other guys can see it.